Therapy
Couples Work:
My passion for working with couples stems from the recognition that there is almost always a desire to be together and unified despite the conflict unfolding. Unresolved trauma, poor relating skills and unrealistic expectations often result in the unnecessary or premature dissolution of a relationship. But with guidance and a safe, neutral place to explore relationship patterns and how our childhoods influence interactions in the present, couples have enormous potential to resurrect intimacy. The great thing about couples’ therapy is that is highly effective and its benefits are often apparent immediately.
Different phases in long term partnerships can impact levels of connection or disconnection such as having a baby, a child leaving the nest, or retirement. Rather than talking about a relationship issue in individual therapy with one partner absent, why not address the issue head on with both people present in a supportive environment?
In addition, I am very aware of the challenges people face when starting new relationships after a marriage or long-term partnership ends. The dating world has changed considerably, so people often need help navigating the new terrain of partnerships forged after a divorce and in middle-age. In these situations, it’s important to clarify intentions and values in order for the new couple to be aligned and on the same page with the various complexities involved.
In couples’ therapy, the couple is treated as the client. It is encouraged that each person be in individual therapy too with a different therapist than myself. This makes the couples work even more effective because each individual is working on personal issues in addition to their dynamic together. My office is in Silver Lake and I request that couples come for in person sessions vs. meeting on Zoom. For a list of excellent books on intimacy, see these links:
US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terrence Real
What Makes Love Last? By John Gottman and Nan Silver
The State of Affairs by Esther Perel
How to Be an Adult in Love by David Richo
Individual Work:
Our thoughts, feelings, and sensations all register in our bodies but when we are under stress, we tend to split off from our felt experience and begin to feel less present and joyful. In psychotherapy, as we discuss problems and issues, I help clients develop an awareness of these physical cues as a way to tap into the body’s innate wisdom and healing potential. I work with clients dealing with grief and loss, life transitions and personal growth. For those of a particular faith tradition, spirituality may be interwoven into the process as well, if desired.
With a background in drama therapy, creativity, mindfulness and other somatic focused therapies, I help clients feel deeper compassion for themselves and more empowered. My clients describe me as warm, personable and direct. I have twenty+ years of experience and believe therapy is a collaborative and experiential process. I am current on trauma informed care and recommend the following books on mindfulness and the body:
Own Your Life: How Our Wounds Become Our Gifts by Lise Porter
Being Peace by Thich Nhat Hanh
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van der Kolk
LMFT #40726
Coaching
Coaching centers on meeting specific goals such as changing careers, enhancing performance, life-style shifts, and increasing financial literacy. Lise works strategically and tailors sessions to the unique needs of each client. She often works with high powered professionals attempting to balance the demands of their jobs with their personal lives. Coaching entails a more structured approach than therapy and demands that clients follow through on homework in order for the work to be successful. When coaching for organizations, Lise focuses on leadership, development, and systemic issues.
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